“You must have the same attitude (mindset) that Christ Jesus had.” — Philippians 2:5 (NLT)
I truly love this Scripture! Has there ever been a verse that spoke directly to your heart and stirred something deep within you? This is where the shift begins—when God’s Word moves from something we read to something we live. It’s in that moment His truth starts to transform how we think, love, and respond, especially in our marriage.
Marriage isn’t about keeping score—it’s about learning to see one another through the eyes of Christ. Yet when tension rises or expectations go unmet, it’s easy to slip into pride, defensiveness, or resentment. That’s why mindset matters. The way we think about our spouse determines how we respond to them.
When Paul wrote to the Philippians, he reminded them to have the same attitude as Christ—a mindset marked by humility, love, and servant leadership. In marriage, this means putting our spouse’s needs above our own, not because we’re weak, but because we’re strong in the Lord.
Think about it: Jesus didn’t demand to be right—He chose to love. He didn’t insist on being served—He served. That’s what real strength looks like in a godly marriage.
Humility is the starting point of humility
Humility doesn’t mean thinking less of yourself—it means thinking of yourself less. It’s choosing to listen before you speak, to understand before you respond. When we approach conflict with humility, we stop trying to “win” and start trying to love.
Pride says, “You need to change.”
Humility says, “Lord, change me.”
That one shift can soften the hardest of hearts and open the door for healing and unity.
Love is the lens that sees differently
Seeing your marriage through the eyes of Christ means viewing your spouse as God’s beloved creation—flawed, yes, but deeply loved. Love covers imperfections. It believes the best. It endures through misunderstandings and extends grace even when it’s hard.
When we choose to see our spouse the way Christ sees them, we’re no longer fighting against each other—we’re fighting for each other.
Servant Leadership is the heart of Christ in action
Jesus led by serving. He washed feet, restored the broken, and loved without condition. In marriage, servant leadership means laying down our need to control and instead asking, “How can I serve you today?”
It’s not about losing yourself; it’s about finding joy in giving—because that’s where true love grows.
So today, ask God to help you shift your mindset. Let His Spirit renew your thoughts so your actions can reflect His love.
Prayer is the mindset of Christ
Lord Jesus, help us think, act, and love like You. Teach us to humble ourselves, listen with grace, and serve each other in love. Renew our minds so that our hearts reflect Your heart. Amen.
Friend, as we step into this new month, remember:
When your mindset aligns with Christ’s, your marriage becomes a reflection of His love.
It’s not about perfection — it’s about progress, humility, and grace.
So take a breath, let go of the need to win, and ask God to help you see your spouse the way He does — precious, chosen, and deeply loved.
Until next time, remember — a Christ-centered mindset doesn’t just change your marriage, it transforms you. Keep your eyes on Jesus, your heart humble, and your love grounded in grace.
With love and faith,
Dr. Deborah
Founder, Heart to Heart Ministry
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