By Dr Deborah Skomba

Does it feel like the love in your marriage has gone cold?
You’re not alone—and there is hope. In this encore presentation, we revisit one of the most common and heartbreaking questions Christian couples ask. If you've ever whispered to yourself, "I still love my spouse, but we feel like strangers," this message is for you.

As a Christian marriage counselor and coach, I know how easy it is for couples to lose their connection in the middle of raising kids, managing careers, and dealing with life’s busyness. The spark doesn’t disappear all at once—it fades slowly, through unmet expectations, poor communication, or even spiritual disconnection. But here’s the truth: you can reignite the flame, and it begins with inviting God back into the center of your marriage.

🔥 Which one of these do you think about the most?

  • If the spark fades, it's not a sign your marriage is over
  • What is God saying to me about my marriage during these dry seasons
  • What will it take to restore closeness and emotional intimacy
  • How do I reconnect spiritually and emotionally when we are not living life on the same page?

Have you been searching with phrases like these?

Christian help for a broken marriage

  • Marriage feels like we are roommates
  • How to bring back the romance
  • Faith-based marriage counseling near me
    —Then you’re exactly where you need to be.

🕊️ God’s Word Brings Restoration

Scripture reminds us that there are seasons in every relationship. “To everything, there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven” (Ecclesiastes 3:1 NLT). This may be a season of rebuilding. Don't give up. Through Christ, all things are possible—including rekindling love and trust.

When you learn to communicate with grace, pray with purpose, and let go of past wounds, the spark can return. Not just a spark—but a fire that’s rooted in Christ.

🌸 Take the Next Step Toward Healing

You don’t have to fix everything overnight. But you do have to start somewhere. Let this blog be your turning point. Allow yourself to reflect, reconnect, and take one small step toward healing.

Want more? Explore these resources:

💬 Let’s Grow Together

Click to listen to the podcast now → “What Do I Do When the Spark Fades?”

Next Steps

  • Need help building or rebuilding your marriage? Let’s talk. Book a 20-minute clarity call with me today. CLICK HERE TO SCHEDULE
  • 10 Questions Every Couple Should Ask Before the Ring. It’s not a checklist—it’s a tool for clarity, communication, and confirmation. It helps couples slow down and see the red flags and the real, God-given strengths they already carry. CLICK HERE FOR GUIDE
  • "Better Marriage Podcast: The I do and I don't of everyday life," found on Apple, Spotify and Here 🙂

Know a Couple Who Needs Clarity Before the Ring?

If you know someone who’s seriously dating or newly engaged, I’d be honored if you referred them to Before the Ring. When they complete the program, I’ll send you a $25 Amazon Gift Card as a thank-you—have them mention your name when they sign up.

This week, remember that just one small act of love each day can begin to warm even the coldest seasons. Start today—on purpose, with purpose.

With grace and purpose,

Dr. Deborah Skomba

Founder, Heart to Heart Ministry and Coaching
Helping you build the marriage you've always dreamed of—before and after "I Do."