Dear Friend,
Let’s be honest—commitment sounds scary to a lot of people today. Whether it’s marriage, ministry, or even spiritual growth, we’ve become a culture that’s comfortable standing in the shallow end. But love—real, lasting, life-changing love—was never meant to be shallow.
So, why don’t people want to dive into the deep end of commitment, especially when it comes to marriage?
Because the deep end is unknown. It takes courage. It requires trust.
And for many, trust has been broken, courage feels lost, and fear has taken over.
Not many have seen marriages that last that are not Christ-centered.
But here’s the truth: God never designed love to be something we tiptoe around. He created it to be something we dive into—with Him as our lifeguard.
3 Reasons People Avoid the Deep End of Commitment:
1. Fear of being hurt again – They’ve been let down before, so they guard their hearts with walls instead of wisdom.
2. Fear of failing – They doubt their ability to keep a commitment because they don’t feel “enough.”
3. Fear of losing control – True commitment means surrender, and that feels risky without trust.
Can you relate? If so, you’re not alone. But fear doesn’t have to have the final say.
Why God’s Design for Marriage Is the Only Real Solution:
God didn’t create marriage to trap us—it was His plan to free us to love deeply, serve sacrificially, and grow spiritually.
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” —Mark 10:9
In God’s design, marriage isn’t based on feelings—it’s built on faith. It’s a covenant, not a contract. And when Christ is at the center, commitment becomes a place of safety, not fear.
Marriage His way includes:
• Partnership, not performance
• Grace, not perfection
• Purpose, not pressure
This kind of love doesn’t just survive—it thrives. And I’m here to help you experience it.
How I Can Help You Take the Next Step!
I know it can be hard to trust again. But you don’t have to do it alone.
I’ve created tools that walk with you on the journey:
• “God’s Design for Marriage” – A biblical blueprint to building a marriage that lasts, even when life gets hard.
• “A Better Marriage Prayer Journal” – 31 days of connection, healing, and spiritual growth for couples who want more than surface-level love.
Whether you’re engaged, married, or simply longing for something deeper—I’m here to help you dive in.
Ready to Go Deeper?
If you’re tired of shallow relationships and ready to experience what real love looks like—let’s talk.
You were made for more than fear. You were made for faithful love.
Click here to schedule a heart to heart call with me.
Let’s build the marriage God had in mind for you from the start.
With love and truth,
Dr. Deborah
Heart to Heart Ministry and Coaching