Marriage is one of God’s greatest gifts, a sacred covenant designed to reflect His love. However, a lasting, fulfilling marriage doesn’t just happen—it requires a strong foundation. If we build our marriage on worldly expectations, it will crumble under pressure. But when we build it on Christ, it stands firm through every season of life.

Here are five foundational principles that will help you cultivate a Christ-centered marriage:

1. Faith: Keeping Christ at the Center

A strong marriage begins with a strong relationship with Christ. When both spouses seek God first, they develop a deeper connection with each other. Pray together, study Scripture, and make faith a priority in your home. Matthew 6:33 reminds us, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Keep Christ at the center, and He will guide your marriage.

2. Love: A Reflection of God’s Love

Biblical love goes beyond emotions—it’s a commitment to serve, honor, and cherish your spouse. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 reminds us that love is patient, kind, and selfless. When we love our spouse as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25), our marriage reflects God’s glory. Love is not about what we get but about what we give.

3. Communication: Speaking with Grace and Truth

Healthy communication is key to a thriving marriage. Ephesians 4:29 says, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up.” Speak with kindness, listen with understanding, and approach conflict with humility. When you communicate with grace, you create a safe space for honesty and emotional intimacy.

4. Trust: Building Security and Stability

Trust is the glue that holds a marriage together. It’s built through honesty, integrity, and reliability. Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages us to trust in the Lord with all our hearts—this includes trusting Him with our marriage. When trust is broken, healing is possible through repentance, forgiveness, and commitment to rebuilding.

5. Commitment: A Covenant, Not a Contract

Marriage is a lifelong covenant, not a temporary agreement. Ecclesiastes 4:12 reminds us that “a cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” When Christ is woven into your marriage, it becomes unshakable. Commit to weathering storms together, choosing love even when it’s hard, and standing firm in the vows you made before God.

Reflection Questions:

  • Which of these foundations is strongest in your marriage? Which one needs attention?
  • How can you and your spouse invite God into your relationship more intentionally?
  • What practical step will you take this week to strengthen your marriage?

A Christ-centered marriage isn’t perfect, but it is powerful. When built on these five foundations, your marriage will be a testimony of God’s love, grace, and faithfulness.

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This spring, let’s not stay stuck in the past. Let’s spring ahead with God, embracing the new growth, the fresh beginnings, and the faith-filled journey ahead.

With joy and blessings,
Dr. Deborah