Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way
By Gary Chapman
A relative makes a tactless comment about your child's weight. The guy behind you on the expressway follows too closely. Your wife lets the gas tank go down to empty...again.
We live in an angry society. From road rage to workplace incidents to marital bickering, out-of-control anger is all around us. How can we handle our anger--and help those we love with theirs? How can we teach our children to deal with their anger? And what about those long-simmering feelings of anger toward people in our past? What's the difference between "bad" and "good" anger? Bestselling author and relationship expert Dr. Gary Chapman offers helpful--and sometimes surprising--insights on why we get angry, what we can do about it, and how we can use anger for good.
Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way (Amazon.com)
Battlefield of the Mind: Winning the Battle in Your Mind
By Joyce Meyer
Worry, doubt, confusion, depression, anger and feelings of condemnation: all these are attacks on the mind. If readers suffer from negative thoughts, they can take heart! Joyce Meyer has helped millions win these all-important battles. In her most popular bestseller ever, the beloved author and minister shows readers how to change their lives by changing their minds.
She teaches how to deal with thousands of thoughts that people think every day and how to focus the mind the way God thinks. And she shares the trials, tragedies, and ultimate victories from her own marriage, family, and ministry that led her to wondrous, life-transforming truth--and reveals her thoughts and feelings every step of the way.
Boundaries in Marriage
By John Townsend
Two lives becoming one: That’s the marriage ideal. But maybe you’ve discovered that it’s easier said than done. How do you solve problems? How do you establish healthy communication? How do you work out conflict and deal with the struggle of differing needs? In the process of knitting two souls together, it’s easy to tear the fabric.
That’s why boundaries—the ways we define and maintain our sense of individuality, freedom, and personal integrity—are so important. And it’s why the principles described in Boundaries in Marriage are essential if you want your marriage to flourish.
Counselors and best-selling authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend, authors of the Gold Medallion Award-winning book, Boundaries, show how you and your mate can experience marriage at its best. You’ll learn how to deal with serious violations and betrayals and develop a haven of mutual love, care, appreciation, and growth.
Boundaries in Marriage will show you:
- Why boundaries and the “Ten Laws of Boundaries” are vital for a thriving, productive marriage
- How values form the structure and architecture of marriage
- How to protect a marriage from intruders, whether parents, other people, affairs, or personal idols
- Why each partner needs to establish personal boundaries, and how to go about it
- How to work with a spouse who understands and values boundaries—and how to work with one who doesn’t.
Whether you are just starting out as a couple, have been married for years, or are seriously contemplating marriage, Boundaries in Marriage will show you how to establish your own boundaries and respect those of your partner. Drawing on principles from the Bible, it can help you safeguard against relational fractures and mend existing cracks. It may even save your marriage. And it can help make even the best marriage better.
Boundaries in Marriage (Amazon.com)
Boundaries: When to Say YES, When to Say NO, To Take Control of Your Life
By John Townsend
In order to call themselves good Christians, many people have drawn overly flexible boundaries (unwilling to say no, always accommodating others' needs) or overly rigid boundaries (to the point of being righteous and judgmental). Psychologists and inspirational speakers Cloud and Townsend show readers how to set reasonable boundaries in order to follow the true path of Christianity. This book has become immensely popular, most likely because it makes personal boundaries easier to define and is filled with spiritual purpose. Some cautions: the format can be overly self-helpish for such a complex discussion and the authors at one point imply that judicious spankings may be an acceptable form of setting boundaries with children. However, many Christians will probably find themselves grateful for this biblical context of boundaries.
Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul
By John Eldredge
John Eldredge became the Robert Bly of evangelicalism with his blockbuster Wild at Heart. Now he teams up with his wife, Stasi, to encourage women to connect with their deepest desires. To facilitate this, the Eldredges reveal in the first chapter what every woman's three core desires are: to be romanced, to play a role in her own adventures and to display beauty. (This formula will be familiar to Eldredge's fans, as Wild at Heart offered a similar tripartite model of men's desires.) The rest of the book is an extended reflection on these three impulses. Drawing heavily on popular films to prove their points, the Eldredges warn that most women tend to become either controlling or needy. Godly women, in contrast, should see God as the ultimate lover, and look to Eve (and not, say, J. Lo) as their model. Also, women should form close, intimate friendships with one another, à la Ruth and Naomi or the ladies in Fried Green Tomatoes. These are all unoriginal themes, which evangelical women's writers have been recycling for years. Christian readers who embrace a robust egalitarianism will not find the Eldredges' perspective congenial. Regardless, the book is likely to fly off the shelves, purchased by all those women who gave Wild at Heart to their husbands, brothers and dads.
What Wild at Heart did for men, Captivating is doing for women. Setting their hearts free. This groundbreaking book shows readers the glorious design of women before the fall, describes how the feminine heart can be restored, and casts a vision for the power, freedom, and beauty of a woman released to be all she was meant to be.
Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul (Amazon.com)
Deadly Emotions: Understand the Mind-Body-Spirit Connection That Can Heal or Destroy You
By Don Colbert
Did you know that negative emotions can adversely affect your health? Depression, anger, guilt, condemnation, low self-esteem-these are only a few of the lethal toxins that threaten body and spirit.
Offering a clear definition of deadly emotions-what they are, where they come from, how they manifest themselves, and their effects on the body-Dr. Colbert uses scientific evidence to support his views. He further offers hope in the form of God's power to deliver readers from these toxins, focusing on the power of forgiveness and repentance, the value of a merry heart, and the joy of the Lord. Finally, Dr. Colbert shares insights on the role nutrition plays in removing the physical toxins that inhibit true health.
Fight Like a Girl: The Power of Being a Woman
By Lisa Bevere
Bevere, an evangelical speaker and author known for tackling touchy topics with candor, wit and transparency, lays down the gauntlet again as she calls Christian women to cease trying to emulate men and embrace their feminine, strong nature. Bevere (Kissed the Girls and Made Them Cry) offers women a clear alternative to society's take on the definition of true strength. Rather than relinquishing the power and influence that she believes women innately embody for the sake of mimicking men's overt physical strength, women can choose to wield their impact for good by way of subtler, more feminine speech and conduct. Bevere expounds upon the ways women fight best "as caretakers of others' hearts, by lifting another's spirit by speaking strength to their weaknesses, and wisely offering images of healthier, life-enhancing practices." She asserts that enemies often fall before influence rather than brute strength: "A gentle tongue can break a bone" (Prov. 25:15). Although some women will be put off by the book's gender-essentialist stance (e.g., women are by nature more tender and more spiritual, etc.), others will resonate with that message. All will appreciate Bevere's authenticity as she delves deep to unmask long-held misconceptions regarding women' uniqueness and untapped potential.
Fight Like a Girl: The Power of Being a Woman (Amazon.com)
Finding Your Way Home: Freeing the Child Within You and Discovering Wholeness in the Functional Family of God
By Kenneth A. Schmidt
Have you professed your faith in God, only to find that you are not willing to give him total control of your life? Finding Your Way Home is a road map out of the darkness into the light of a Christ-centered life.
Christian psychologist Ken Schmidt uses scripture as a basis for guiding struggling believers from a world of insecurity into a life of confidence, wholeness, and joy in the functional family of God.
This compassionate plan helps Christians break free from the bonds that others have placed on them throughout their childhood and adult lives. Each chapter contains growth exercises, suitable for both personal and group settings, that challenge the reader to actively seek Christ-centered healing.
When you were a child, nothing held you back. You cried when you felt like crying, screamed when you were angry and laughed when you wanted to laugh. You were vulnerable, dependent and felt no shame about your need. You simply were who you were.
This doesn't last long. As we grow, human expectations and judgment do something to us that God never intended. We become ashamed of who we are and learn that it's wrong to express what we're feeling. But that isn't what God wants for us. He wants us to break free from the bonds that others have placed on us throughout our childhood and adult lives, and find our way back to the freedom we knew as little children.
In Finding Your Way Home, you'll see how you can leave the shame behind and recover the childlike joy that's so elusive - even to committed Christians. It all begins by truly understanding what it means to be a part of God's functional family. Because no matter how "good" or "bad" our families were, it's only in His family that we can find genuine wholeness and the freedom to be who we really are.
Flourish: Discover the Daily Joy of Abundant, Vibrant Living
By Catherine Hart Weber Ph.D.
Many Christian women feel like they are languishing rather than flourishing. They face days full of busyness and stress that can lead to anxiety and depression. Dr. Catherine Hart Weber integrates the best in positive psychology with biblical wisdom to show readers how to develop healthy mental states. She demonstrates that cultivating positive emotions like joy, gratitude, and hope will foster spiritual growth, a deeper intimacy with God, and strong relationships. Not only will these traits of the Spirit lead to a more fulfilling and abundant life, but they will help readers cope with daily pressures. Flourish shows how women can partner with God to nurture healthy emotions and virtues to live life at its best.
Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries
By Danny Silk
Keeping your love on. It’s a hard thing to do. Sometimes it’s the hardest thing to do. But if you want to build healthy relationships with God and others, learning to keep your love on is non–negotiable. Adults and children alike thrive in healthy relationships where it is safe to love and be loved, to know and be known. Yet for many, relationships are anything but safe, loving, or intimate. They are defined by anxiety, manipulation, control, and conflict. The reason is that most people have never been trained to be powerful enough to keep their love on in the face of mistakes, pain, and fear.
Keep Your Love On reveals the higher, Jesus–focused standard defined by mature love—love that stays ‘on’ no matter what. Danny Silk’s practical examples and poignant stories will leave you with the power to draw healthy boundaries, communicate in love, and ultimately protect your connections so you can love against all odds. As a result, your relationships will be radically transformed for eternity. When you learn to keep your love on, you become like Jesus.
Look to the Rock: A devotional for those who have suffered the trauma of abuse
By Alicia G. Bell
This book is a journey. A journey through the paths of healing. One of the funny things about healing is that the healing itself often hurts so much that you wonder if it is even worth the effort. Trust me, the view from the other side is wonderful and well worth the journey. It is our prayer that you will embark on this journey with us and find some rest for your weary heart. Abuse leaves us scarred and very weary. God is in the business of healing so let's look to the rock from which we have been hewn "Look to the rock from which you were hewn, and to the hole of the pit from which you were dug." Isaiah 51:1b
Love Is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships
By Hemfelt, Minirth and Meier
These bestselling doctors walk you through their ten proven stages to recovery from codependency that results from external circustances. Humans are susceptible to codependency because of our sinful tendency to use defense mechanisms to fool ourselves. In codependent relationships, deceitful games are played, and important Christian principles are often taken out of context and abused. God wants us to have healthy relationships with a balance between being dependent and independent. The doctors describe how the most effective means of overcoming codependent relationships is to establish or deepen a relationship with Christ Himself. They describe the causes of codependency, pointing out the factors that perpetuate it, and lead readers through their ten stages of recovery.
Moving Mountains: Praying with Passion, Confidence, and Authority
By John Eldredge
How would it feel to enter into prayer with confidence and assurance—certain that God heard you and that your prayers would make a difference?
It would likely feel amazing and unfamiliar. That’s because often our prayers seem to be met with silence or don’t appear to change anything. Either response can lead to disappointment or even despair in the face of our ongoing battles and unmet longings—especially when we don’t know if we’re doing something wrong or if some prayers just don’t work.
New York Times bestselling author John Eldredge confronts these issues directly in Moving Mountains by offering a hopeful approach to prayer that is effective, relational, and rarely experienced by most Christians.
In a world filled with danger, adventure, and wonder, we have at our disposal prayers that can transform the events and issues that matter most to us and to God. Moving Mountains shows you how to experience the power of daily prayer, learn the major types of prayers—including those of intervention, consecration, warfare, and healing—and to discover the intimacy of the cry of the heart prayer, listening prayer, and praying Scripture.
Things can be different, and you personally have a role to play with God in bringing about that change through prayer. It may sound too good to be true, but this is your invitation to engage in the kind of prayers that can move God's heart as well as the mountains before you.
On the Threshold of Hope
By Diane Mandt Langberg
On the Threshold of Hope offers hope and healing to men and women who have been traumatized by sexual abuse. Dr. Langberg's insights and the quotations from many survivors assure readers that they are not alone and that Christ, the Redeemer, can heal their deep wounds. Through stories, Scripture, questions, and encouragement, Dr. Langberg walks with survivors on the road to healing through Christ's love and power.
On the Threshold of Hope (Amazon.com)
Ordering Your Private World
By Gordon MacDonald
One of the great battlegrounds of the new century is within the private world of the individual. The values of our Western culture incline us to believe that the busy, publicly active person in ministry is also the most spiritual. In Ordering Your Private World, Gordon MacDonald equips a new generation to live life from the inside out, cultivating the inner victory necessary for public effectiveness.
Ordering Your Private World (Amazon.com)
Overcoming Anxiety, Worry and Fear
By Dr. Jeffrey Jantz
Fretting over seemingly inconsequential daily headaches. Constantly worrying about family members' health or safety. Being weighed down by negativity from the 24-hour news cycle. It's a wonder anyone can escape anxiety. Unchecked, anxiety can swiftly rob us of our sense of safety, well-being, and peace.
Overcoming Anxiety, Worry, and Fear offers a whole-person approach to coping with and eliminating anxiety. This compassionate combination of common sense, biblical wisdom, and therapeutic advice will help readers unchain themselves from constant worry so that they can "be anxious about nothing" (Phil. 4:6). Trusted author Dr. Gregory L. Jantz helps readers identify the causes for their anxiety, assess the severity of their symptoms, and start down avenues for positive change.
Overcoming Anxiety, Worry and Fear (Amazon.com)
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
By Gary Chapman
Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their "love tank." Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.
Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse’s primary love language—quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.
By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with specific, simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. A newly designed love languages assessment will help you understand and strengthen your relationship. You can build a lasting, loving marriage together.
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts (Amazon.com)
The Dream Giver
By Brude Wilkinson
Bestselling author Bruce Wilkinson shows how to identify and overcome the obstacles that keep millions from living the life they were created for. He begins with a compelling modern-day parable about Ordinary, who dares to leave the Land of Familiar to pursue his Big Dream. With the help of the Dream Giver, Ordinary begins the hardest and most rewarding journey of his life. Wilkinson gives readers practical, biblical keys to fulfilling their own dream, revealing that there's no limit to what God can accomplish when we choose to pursue the dreams He gives us for His honor.Are you living your dream— or just living your life? Welcome to a little story about a very big idea. This compelling modern-day parable tells the story of Ordinary, who dares to leave the Land of Familiar to pursue his Big Dream. You, too, have been given a Big Dream. One that can change your life. One that the Dream Giver wants you to achieve. Does your Big Dream seem hopelessly out of reach? Are you waiting for something or someone to make your dream happen? Then you’re ready for The Dream Giver. Let Bruce Wilkinson show you how to rise above the ordinary, conquer your fears, and overcome the obstacles that keep you from living your Big Dream. You were made for this. Now it’s time to begin your journey.
The Dream Giver (Amazon.com)
The Healing Path: How the Hurts in Your Past Can Lead You to a More Abundant Life
By Dan B. Allender
Don't Waste Your Pain
None of us escapes the heartache and disappointments of life. To live is to hurt, and we all have the wounds to prove it. Regardless of how we've been hurt, we all face a common question: What should we do with our pain? Should we stoically ignore it? Should we just "get over it"? Should we optimistically hope that everything will work out in the end? If we fail to respond appropriately to the wounds that life and relationships inflict, our pain will be wasted; it will numb us or destroy us. But suffering doesn't have to mangle our hearts and rob us of joy. It can, instead, lead us to life--if we know the path to healing. Healing is not the resolution of our past; it is the use of our past to draw us into deeper relationship with God and his purposes for our lives. If you're ready to shape a future characterized by love, service, and joy, now is the time to step out onto The Healing Path.
The Way of the Heart
By Henri J. M. Nouwen
Since it was first published more than twenty years ago, The Way of the Heart has helped millions of men and women cast off the anger and greed that trouble the world–and find love, compassion, and peace in the heart of God.
Inspired by the ancient teachings of St. Anthony and the Desert Fathers, The Way of the Heart clears before us a spiritual path consisting of three stepping-stones: Solitude (learning not to be alone but to be alone with God); Silence (the discipline by which the inner fire of God is tended and kept alive); and Prayer (standing in the presence of God with the mind in the heart).
Distinguished theologian Henri Nouwen brilliantly illuminates each of these disciplines. In reflections that are beautifully clear and practical, as uplifting on the fourth reading as on the first, he helps us separate the wheat from the chaff in our spiritual lives–and reconnects us with what truly matters.
Within this one small book lies the most relevant and inspiring challenge that we shall ever face: to surrender the compulsive noise of the world for the way of the heart that leads us to God.
The Way of the Heart (Amazon.com)
The Wounded Heart Workbook: A Companion Workbook
By Dan B. Allender
This companion workbook to The Wounded Heart will help you work through the complex issues of sexual abuse in a concrete way by leading you step-by-step through the process of change. It also includes specific sections for men, ideas for discussion-group facilitators, and reflective quotations from fellow strugglers with sexual abuse.
The Wounded Heart Workbook: A Companion Workbook (Amazon.com)
The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse
By Dan B. Allender
Sexual abuse knows no religious or social boundaries. The Wounded Heart is an intensely personal and specific look at this form of abuse. Dr. Allender explores the secret lament of the soul damaged by sexual abuse and lays hold of the hope buried there by the One whose unstained image we all bear. Includes information about false memory issues.
Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married
By Gary D. Chapman
"Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage,” No wonder the divorce rate hovers around fifty percent.
Bestselling author and marriage counselor, Gary Chapman, hopes to change that with his newest book. Gary, with more than 35 years of counseling couples, believes that divorce is the lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as intimate teammates.
So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive and mutually beneficial marriage men and women long for. It’s the type of information Gary himself wished he had before he got married.
Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married (Amazon.com)
What's Age Got to Do with It? Living Your Healthiest and Happiest Life
By Robin McGraw
- "I'm 42-years-old, but feel like I'm 62."
- "I have lost my glow."
- "I miss the woman I used to be."
- "I'm so afraid of getting older."
- "I want to feel healthy and alive again"
If you've had these or similar thoughts, you're not alone. Robin McGraw, wife of television talk show host Dr. Phil McGraw, receives thousands of emails from women asking her what she does to look and feel so vibrant, energetic and healthy at the age of 55. It all started back in Robin's twenties and thirties when pivotal moments in her life made her realize that if she did not put her health and well-being first, no one else would. One such moment came in her early thirties when Robin experienced the sudden death of her mother, a wonderful woman who put the needs of her family above her own and, as a result, didn't know that her health was ailing. This tragedy made Robin realize that in order to be the best wife, mother and woman possible, she had to take care of herself as if her life depended on it.
In What's Age Got To Do With It, Robin urges you to do the same and shows you that it's not selfish to take care of yourself. Robin says, "I wrote this book, not only to answer questions about what I do to stay healthy and in shape, but to remind women that it's time to move yourself to the top of your list of priorities. If you can't do it for you, then do it for your family. Because my precious mother never did that, she missed out on so many wonderful years and experiences. I realized that it doesn't make you a better wife or parent if you're sacrificing everything -including your health, soul and spirit -for your family. I refuse to perpetuate that legacy and I want you to join me and get excited about living your life in a passionate, happy and healthy way. It's never too early to start taking care of yourself, but it's also never, ever too late."
Who Switched Off My Brain? Controlling Toxic Thoughts and Emotions
By Caroline Leaf Ph.D.
We're living in an epidemic of toxic emotions. Research shows that as much as 87% to 95% of mental and physical illnesses are a direct result of toxic thinking-proof that our thoughts affect us physically and emotionally.
In this best-selling book, Dr. Caroline Leaf clearly communicates 13 ways to detox your thought life and live a life of physical, mental, and emotional wholeness.
Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul
By John Eldredge
If Christian men are going to change from a pitiful, wimpy bunch of "really nice guys" to men who are made in the image of God, they must reexamine their preconceptions about who God is and recover their true "wild" hearts, writes bestselling author John Eldredge in Wild at Heart: Discovering a Life of Passion, Freedom, and Adventure. Eldredge throws down the gauntlet--men are bored; they fear risk, they refuse to pay attention to their deepest desires. He challenges Christian men to return to authentic masculinity without resorting to a "macho man" mentality. Men often seek validation in venues such as work, or in the conquest of women, Eldredge observes. He urges men to take time out and come to grips with the "secret longings" of their hearts. Although the book succeeds best in its slant toward a male audience, it also strives to help women understand the implications of authentic masculinity in their relationships with men. Eldredge frames the book around his outdoor experiences and appealing anecdotes about his family, sprinkling the text with touches of humor and overlying everything with heartfelt passion. Even as he mixes eclectic ideas about masculinity from popular movies such as Braveheart with classic words from Oswald Chambers, and lyrics from the Dixie Chicks with stories from the Bible, he points to only one answer for men searching for their true wildness of heart.
God designed men to be dangerous, says John Eldredge. Simply look at the dreams and desires written in the heart of every boy: To be a hero, to be a warrior, to live a life of adventure and risk. Sadly, most men abandon those dreams and desires-aided by a Christianity that feels like nothing more than pressure to be a "nice guy." It is no wonder that many men avoid church, and those who go are often passive and bored to death. In this provocative book, Eldredge gives women a look inside the true heart of a man and gives men permission to be what God designed them to be-dangerous, passionate, alive, and free.
Your Body His Temple (DVD)
By Caroline Leaf
"Your Body His Temple: God's Plan for Achieving Emotional Wholeness" is an 8-DVD series featuring Caroline Leaf, PhD., Marty Copeland, & Janet Maccaro, PhD
Your Body His Temple (Amazon.com)